Without fail, all the times in my life when I’m at my ‘happy weight’ and think myself slim with ease, are always been when I’m not obsessing over my weight as I’m in a space of love not fear. The second I let fear take over by criticising my body, scrutinizing over what I’m eating, and comparing my body to others (like I did back in my modelling days), my weight will change.
Take a moment now to think about the patterns in your life when your weight goes up. Would you say that you have minimal self-love for yourself at these times when you overeat or reach for the bad stuff?
During these times, you’re in a space of self-sabotage. Your conscious mind is saying that it prefers Slim-You, but your subconscious mind is quite comfortable with Not-Slim You. You’re taking refuge in food as it may numb the pain, just like an addict might turn to cigarettes or drugs. We’re all familiar with the term “comfort foods” right? That’s exactly what food becomes for you when you’re lacking in self-love. You fill the void with food as it brings you comfort.
I love this excerpt from A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons For Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Marianne Williamson…
Love is that which both created and sustains you. It’s both your connection to your reality and your alignment with the positive flow of the universe. Remembering this Divine truth – that love is who you are – is key to your healing, for your relationship to food is an area where your nervous system has lost the memory of its Divine intelligence. As you remember your own Divine truth, the cells of your body will remember theirs.
The body has a natural intelligence for creating and maintaining the perfect weight for you as long as the mind is aligned with its own perfection. Your perfect weight is coded into the natural patterns of your true self, as your perfect everything is coded into the patterns of your true self. The real you knows exactly how to inhabit your body in the healthiest, happiest way, and will do so automatically when you reestablish conscious connection with spiritual reality. By getting back to the truth of who you really are, you will get to a place where all your problems with weight have disappeared.
This excerpt sums it up beautifully. I totally agree with Marianne that our body has a natural intelligence for creating and maintaining the perfect weight for you as long as the mind is aligned with its own perfection. I’ve witnessed this myself.
It comes back to how you talk to yourself, or your Divine Mind as Marianne calls it. This might be sounding a bit ‘woo woo’, but stay with me!
Your Divine Mind is what looks out for you on a spiritual level. It tells you not to open the bag of chips or have that second serving of food. This part of you loves you and wants you to be healthy and happy and be at your ideal weight with ease. It wants to nourish you on a cellular level with wholefoods and exercise, without deprivation and without extremity.
This Is How I Think Myself Slim & the Actions I Take
- I look at myself lovingly in the mirror, thinking loving words to myself about my body (whether I’m at my ideal weight or not at my ideal weight)
- I think about the nourishing food I’m going to prepare myself. I then enjoy shopping for this food, making this food and eating this food, as I know I’m fueling my body and mind with goodness and love. This puts me at ease
- I practice mindfulness meditation
- Each day, I think about what form of movement I’m going to do to shape my body how I like it and keep my bones strong and mind clear. This may be weights, yoga, a run or a walk outside. Some days I may not feel like it, and I don’t punish myself when these day arise, as I know my body is still perfect as it is
- There will be times when I do decide to pig out on something unhealthy. This is what I do when these moments happen
For those of you reading this who are overweight, obese, been yo-yo dieting for years, or simply not able to maintain your ideal weight, even if it’s just a couple of kilos, this excerpt below written by Marianne Williamson, is for you
If your ‘weighty thinking’ does not change, then even if you lose weight, you’ll retain an overwhelming subconscious urge to gain it back. It’s less important how quickly you lose the weight, and more important how holistically you lose weight; you want your mind, your emotions, and your body to all ‘lose weight’. Weight that disappears from your body but not from your soul is simply recycling outward for a while, but is almost certain to return. It’s self-defeating, therefore, to struggle to drop excess weight unless you are also willing to drop the thought-forms that initially produced it and now hold it in place.
Love Liz xx