Oh lordy, have I been looking forward to writing this series or what! I’ve been looking forward to it for a couple of reasons. The first one being that it’s just so exciting I’m actually writing that I’m no longer a single girl in my thirties (woo hoo!!). And the second one is because I sincerely want to encourage and give hope to all the single ladies out there, no matter what age, that finding love is possible for YOU too.
My Love Story…
Okay, so if you’re new to my blog or you’ve missed some of my older posts on love & relationships, I urge you to read up on them first to get the low-down sista! Start with this one about my most painful breakup, then read the true story about my romance with a German pilot, then click here to read the one about why I think I’m still single in my thirties, and lastly my post on why love is so important to me.
Now that you’re up to speed, let me dive straight in by saying that being in a reciprocated, deeply loving relationship is SO meaningful and beautiful and I feel blessed and super grateful to have found love again.
But holy moly it took a while for it to come knocking on my door. Even though I’ve been out on plenty of dates, including ‘seeing’ a few of those dates for a couple of months or so, I’ve pretty much been single for six years. Yep. Six. Years.
Mathias, my gorgeous ex German boyfriend, is who I had my last loving relationship with all those years ago.
It’s been a while you could say
I never gave up on love though. I always believed I would find my soul mate again when the time was right. And you know what my lovelies? The time is right, and he’s here.
Before I fill you in on all the deets of my new fella, I would like to say to all of you single (or taken but unhappy) beauties out there, that I 100% understand what it’s like to feel lonely. I know the pain of feeling unloved and unwanted (in your eyes anyway), and feeling envious of your friends or couples you see on the street who are all loved-up, just wishing that it was you in a loving relationship too.
I know what it’s like to wake up on a Sunday morning, alone, thinking how nice it would be to wake up next to someone. I get how it feels attending weddings, parties, dinners, holidays and other social occasions, as a single girl feeling like the third wheel or the chick who’s always without a bloke!
I’ve made some seriously poor choices in men and had my heart broken several times and have experienced the anguish of breaking some hearts too. I’ve had those moments of fear, stressing about my age and my fertility and wondering if it’s EVER gonna happen!
I’ve had them all. All those doubts, fears, pain and uncertainty
But I’m here to tell you gorgeous, that if you truly believe in your heart and gut that the right guy is out there for you (and he is!), he will show up. When the time is right. You don’t need to date every guy that comes your way, it’s totally fine to have your standards, just be clear on WHO IT IS you’re trying to attract. What values, morals, qualities and interests are you searching for first and foremost? Write ’em down! Then visualise what he looks like. What sort of job does he have? What kind of lifestyle does he lead (usually the lifestyle you lead or would like to lead)? What does he like to do for fun? How does he treat you? Get super clear on this stuff and write them all down.
I kid you not, I wrote out my ‘perfect partner’ in great detail two years ago, and I would say that 90% of what I wrote is exactly who I’ve attracted! And I’m talking the finer details too! Pretty amazing, but I’m not surprised.
Once you have crystal clear clarity on exactly who it is you’d like to attract, like with all areas of your life, it will happen for you. When the time is right.
I started dating my gorgeous man, Gav, in November last year, moved in with him six weeks later, and with a beaming, loved-up heart, look forward to my future with him!
Click here for part 2, where I share why it took me six months to let Gavey take me out on a date, why I was stuck and unsure at first, how he won me over, and why giving him a go was the best decision I ever made!
Let’s open this conversation up! Where are you at? Are you single and anxious about it, or are you more going with the flow, knowing that Mr Right is out there? I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment below!
Love Liz xx
What a wonderfully brave step to share your heart like you have here Liz!
It?s amazing ? when I look back on heartbreak and time in solitude I realise how necessary those days/weeks/months/years were to rebuild inner strength, self belief, self love and finally push me to breakthrough and open to love again and allow love in.
We don?t always see the power we have within ? to love and be loved ? when we are so sad, broken or disillusioned, but the love is always there.
With Love, S*M
Thank you for your beautiful comment Elise! I totally agree – we all have the power within to love and be loved. Love is there for all of us! Xxx
Anna V says
What a beautiful post! I cannot wait to read part 2!
I’m happily single at the moment and same as you, have dated over the last few years but it’s been around 4.5 years since my last long term relationship. I’m crystal clear on who I want to share my time with & that somebody hasn’t shown up yet which is fine by me 🙂 Love being the 3rd wheel with all my taken friends! haha x
Good on you Anna! He will definitely show up :-). Sounds like you’re in a really good space to let love into your life. All the best xx
Liz, I adore this post. Thank you so much for sharing with us! Just yesterday I wrote a post on my blog about letting go with love and healing after the end of a relationship – and it’s such perfect timing for me to read this and remember I have this to look forward to one day! For now I’m very happily single, but thank you for giving me the belief that loving again, in such a beautiful, whole capacity, is possible. Lots of love to you, and I’m so happy for you! Lauren xx
Aww, thanks Lauren! I really appreciate your kind words :-). Experiencing deep love can happen more than once…you just need to be open to it again. Much love to you! xx